Guerrand-Hermès Foundation for Peace


5-step peace process


  Step One: Taking Responsibility
  The first step is to take responsibility for one’s own part in any conflict, imbalance, tension, grievance or problem with courage, honesty, and humility, even if one does not feel personally involved in conflict.
  Step Two: Asking and Reflecting
  The second step is to ask a number of questions, examples are given in 'my responsibility for peace'.
  Step Three: Releasing, surrendering and forgiving
  The third step is to understand the power of forgiveness and compassion. By understanding and allowing for forgiveness of oneself and others, including our ancestors and our collective past, we can let go of guilt, shame and fear. We then no longer need to uphold the same grievances from one generation to another. As we forgive others, we forgive ourselves and vice-versa.
  Step Four: To understand our authentic selves
  The fourth step is to understand the changes we can make in order and speak with our ‘inner’ cohesive authority and thereby helping us to promote harmony and peace in the world.
  Step Five: Sharing
  The fifth step is to go out and share this healing process with others. Practising this process can transform ourselves, others and our communities.

The GHFP supports and promotes this 'Five Steps to a Peace Process' with a view to encourage peace, harmony and understanding between peoples regardless of our ethnic origin or religion. It is also to help us understand how our collective memories of the past influence our present identities and how we tell and live our lives. This Process has been presented at many international arenas, including the 'Healing the Wounds of History' conference in Nov 2011 in Lebanon, the UNAOC Forum held in Dec 2011 in Doha, Qatar and as part of the Parliament of World Religions' Webinar series in March 2012. 

Alexandra Asseily is the key person who has developed this process. She believes that through individual in-depth reflection and feeling in a safe way, we may then share together, draw on each other's experience and explore our own responsibility for peace. We may discover which aspects of ourselves are not fully contributing to peace and where these parts originate. We may then understand how best to align them and release the grievances which these parts carry through forgiveness and surrender to the Divine or Great life force. What is normal is the ebb and flow of tensions that form part of a healthy interaction among the life forces, which influence us in this world. Conflict need not be the norm, but the exception. When tensions and fears rise high, conflicts can erupt and we often blame others for our grievances instead of taking responsibility for the part which we may have played in fuelling these tensions.

A note on forgiveness. Many of us resist forgiveness, because of the feeling that we may be letting a significant other or others of the hook of justice and betraying our obligations to our ancestors or our collective past. Many of us resist forgiving because we have been so badly hurt within our family or group and fear forgetting our pain and suffering. if we let go of our beliefs and grievances. Forgiveness is not about forgetting, it is about releasing and surrendering the pain embedded in our memory. Our resistance to being able to forgive holds us back with the weight of the past and stops us from fully and freely expressing ourselves with our gifts and talents today. Surrendering our pain and asking for forgiveness can be done at any time in this healing process.
To consider something of the complexity of forgiveness, please refer to our GHFP Healing Forgiveness and Reconciliation seminar notes - link above.